Acum ceva timp am purtat o discutie cu o persoana care m-a impresionat. Nu conteaza daca este vorba despre o femeie sau un barbat, chiar nu are importanta. Ceea ce conteaza este subiectul discutiei: sa-ti pastrezi virginitatea pana la casatorie. Este adevarat ca aceasta persoana avea si motive religioase sa aiba aceasta opinie, numai ca modul in care vorbea despre cum ar trebui sa te pastrezi pana la nunta, sa fii pur in ochii celuilalt, cu care iti vei petrece tot restul vietii si caruia trebuie sa-i daruiesti totul m-a impresionat puternic. Si am gandit in sinea mea atunci: ce om deosebit, mai rar intalnesti astfel de persone.
Apoi mi-a fost dat sa descoper si altceva: nu totul era atat de frumos si romantic dupa cum parea. Voi cum ati fi reactionat daca aceasta persoana v-ar fi intrebat apoi, intr-o alta conversatie: “iti place hardcore-ul? Mie da.” Ma intreb ce reactie va avea „jumatatea” acestei persoane, care va fi cu siguranta cucerita de viziunea aceasta romantica asupra iubirii, cand va afla ce se afla in spatele ei. Pana la nunta va fi totul frumos, roz, fluturasi in aer zburand, iar dupa... dezastru. Pentru ca pot pune pariu ca persoana despre care va vorbesc acum nu-si va arata adevarata fata decat dupa casatorie.
Ce ar spune freud acum: „v-am zis eu!” .
In ochii mei cele doua viziuni nu se potrivesc, dar oamenii sunt complecsi, poate ca pana la urma acesta persoana va gasi pe cineva potrivit.
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Some days ago I had a talk with someone that impressed me. It doesn’t matter if it was a woman or a man, really it doesn’t. What it matters was the subject of our conversation: if one should keep the virginity until marriage. It’s true that this person had religious motifs also to think like this, but the way this person spoke about keeping yourself until that night, being pure in the other ones eyes, that you will spend the rest of your life with and to whom you have to give everything really impressed me. And I thought to myself: what a wonderful human being, we rarely meat people that are like this.
But then I discovered something else: not everything was as beautiful and romantic as I thought. How would you have reacted if this person would have asked you after, in another conversation: “do you like hardcore? Because I do”. I wonder how the “soul mate” of this person, which will be surely conquered by this romantic view on love, will react when finding out what’s behind it. Until the wedding it will all be beautiful and pink, butterflies flying in the air, and after… disaster. Because I’m willing to bet that this person I’m talking to you about won’t show the real face until after marriage.
What would Freud say now: “I told you so!”.
In my eyes this two views do not fit, but people are complex human beings, maybe this person will find someone after all.
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